As you may remember, the teenage years are some of the most stressful and challenging times a person can experience. Physical changes occur during this time which can be stressful for both parents and children. Even though it is difficult, we simply have to be there for our kids and deal with it when the time comes. As your children go through their teen years, they will also have positive and rewarding times. Most adults, as they grow older, will realize that their teenage years were actually full of fun, excitement and positive memories. For others, high school is one of their most awful memories because of certain people that made their lives miserable.
The family dynamics involved with parents and multiple children are complicated to say the least. One of the most difficult things in parenting, is to not show favoritism for any one child. Showing favoritism is not always easy to avoid, because people are human, and it normally takes work not to pick favorites among your children.
As long as you are aware of favoritism, and its possibility, then you should be able to avoid it with your children. Children need to feel loved and wanted by the parents, and that is the responsibility of a parent. When you realize that you have been showing one child favoritism over others, you need to take cautious steps to repair the situation.
Your kids will all have a favorite subject as they go through school, something that is hardwired into their brains according to experts in this field. Your kids internal molecular structure plays a large role in whether or not they are academically oriented or choose a different direction. All kids are different; some will enjoy school very much and others will not handle school well at all. Once you understand a little bit more about your children and how their personalities are, you can be there to help them along the way. One important thing that you always need to emphasize as they grow older is that completing high school is very important. If completing high school means that you have to hire a tutor to get them there, make sure they know this is something that is available.
Disciplining children, with regards to abiding by the house rules, is a policy that should be consistent, and most parents know this. Since people are all different, coming up with the right standard to be consistent to, is sometimes a big problem and the children know how to use that. Children can be master manipulators in the home when it involves singling out the parent who is known to give in. Unfortunately, quite often the lenient parent is unwilling to be more strict, and the tough parent is unwilling to be more lenient, so they are actually the problem, not the children. Parents can be their own worst enemies when they are unable to come up with a set of rules where everyone could be consistent.
What any parent should do is take part in their child’s life as much as possible, understand what they are going through, and be there for them during the tough times. It is essential, when trying to raise your children, to have a positive relationship with them and great communication at all times.